Don’t diminish yourself small once you realize you are not twenty-five any more.

You are not twenty-five any more…

Yes this is true, but it doesn’t mean you can’t have a fulfilling life at fifty and counting. I have met too many men that are either coming out of a separation, feel exhausted by their professional lives, or look oversized if not supersized. Sometimes, they are a mix of the three, among other conditions and these men tend to think less of themselves and belittle themselves.

First,

you need to stop what you are doing and give yourself the opportunity to reassess your life in order to remove blockages, habits, and ongoing mental self-inflicted punishment that distress you. Any situation you are going through is temporary, only death is certain.

I have been through several hard personal situations, have worked tirelessly and have had tight financial moments. However, because I stuck to my core values and what I believe in, I have been able to overcome them.

The first step takes responsibility.

No need to complain. Who cares anyways and who wants to hear a complainer?

Unload your stress, pain for sure and choose wisely the right person to support you on your journey. Going to a psychologist does help but, he or she needs to be able to articulate answers in a way that make sense to you. Then, bounce back and solve little by little what needs to be changed.

I grew up in a family where I heard over and over again expressions from my parents that didn’t help me to feel confident. Always be happy with what you have, don’t complain, be thankful. But, in my heart and soul, I felt it was not fulfilling.

So I questioned until I found the answers to allow my mental framework to change and boost my confidence. It might happen for you with a discussion with a friend, a stranger, a book, a Ted Talk, a podcast you name it. Nowadays, there are countless sources of information. It is important to find what helps you to boost your confidence.

Then look for inspiration.

In order to get the best of your upcoming years, you have to visualize them in a way that it will make you want to live them. And most likely the reference you have had is not quite the inspiration you need.

One thing I always recommend is to plan your future with realistic goals not that one should limit themselves but one should envision it in accordance with realistic possibilities. If you are already overweight and don’t exercise regularly maybe you don’t want to sign up for an ultra marathon. Instead you may decide to start walking every day and incrementally increase your pace and the distance in order to reach your goals. Remember, you can reassess your goals at any time. No stress there.

The motivation to achieve will become the drive and inspiration to do more. Now, you have to be able to make some change in your life because what you have been doing until now brought you to where you are.

There are plenty of inspirational models and examples on social media.

Find the one that will push you out of your comfort zone and motivate you to move forward to be your better self.

Upgrade your operating living system

Do you change your car regularly for a better-equipped model?

Do you upgrade your phone for the latest version to enjoy all the new goodies?

Do you upgrade your phone operating system to fully embrace new app updates and the countless benefits they provide for you?

So what happens when you have the tendency to belittle yourself?

That feeling when you have given up on your overall personal capacity.

Maybe it is time to give yourself an upgrade and reboot your mental framework.

Maybe it is time to unload what is not needed. You may think your life sucks, but what do YOU plan to do?

It is all in your power.

Take responsibility and decide to move quickly because time is going through your hands like sand slipping between your fingers. I can assure you that starting to make changes in your life will be rewarding and it will empower you to live and be the best version of yourself.

After turning 50, there is no reason to dream small

I realized that by allowing myself to dream big and think about my next 50 years, I got more pleasure and enjoyment waking up every day to live my life.

Before I turned 50, I was too busy living the life that more or less I chose but I was too busy chasing my own demons and limitations rather than dreaming big.

But then going through my fifties and realizing the greatness of being pain free and pill free when I had already lost dear friends to diseases, I knew what I was doing would only keep me on this beautiful path that allows me to fully enjoy every second I have to breathe.

And that continues to drive me to be the best version of myself.